Let’s discuss about Orgasm – Orgasm is the intense or paroxysmal excitement especially the 
rapid pleasurable release of
neuromuscular tensions at the height of sexual arousal that is usually accompanied by the ejaculation of semen in the male and by vaginal contractions in the female.

This sexual climax is the sudden discharge of accumulated sexual excitement during the sexual response cycle , resulting in rhythmic , involuntary muscular contraction in the pelvic region characterised by sexual pleasure .

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Orgasm gives an extraordinary feeling of pleasure. You get pleasure when your sexual desire reaches the state of climax and discharge that is accumulated by erotic tension, with the right kind of sexual stimulation and intimate  touching , an orgasm or a climax  is highly possible. However  all  this pleasure depends on how you approach this peak of excitement and sensational intensity. This feeling is not only possible with a physical engagement with your partner but also relies on your extensive psychological and mental imaginations.
Further an orgasm is a feeling of immense pleasure and a climax of sexual tension and excitement. This is not caused due to intense sexual stimulation but can also be achieved during any type of sexual activities, right from an act of foreplay to sexual intercourse.

Scientifically and psychologically – Orgasm are involuntary activities controlled by the nervous system, where a female experiences muscular spasms in multiple areas of the body. Once achieved , the person is borne to have a relaxing experience due to the release of neuro hormones  Ie. Oxytocin  and  prolactin as well as endorphins.

 Orgasmic Factors and Variabilities

In females, the most common way to achieve orgasm is by direct sexual stimulation of the         clitoris means consistent  manual , oral or other concentrated friction against the external part   of the clitoris.                                                                                                                            

Normally surveys indicate that maximum females require direct clitoris stimulation to achieve orgasm , although indirect clitoris stimulation via vaginal penetration may also be sufficient.

Clitoral orgasms are easier to achieve because the glans of the clitoris as a whole, has more than around 8000 sensory nerve ending , which is as many nerve endings are present in human penis, as the clitoris is homologous to the penis , it is the equivalent in its capacity to receive sexual stimulation.

 Misconception regarding female orgasm

According to the older research, the vagina is completely insensitive. There is no orgasm in itself. However there are areas in the anterior vaginal wall and between the top junction of the labia minora and the urethra that are especially sensitive.

With regards to specific density of the nerve ending, while the area commonly described as the G-Spot may produce an orgasm and the urethral sponge, an area in which the G-Spot may be found , runs along the roof of the vagina and can create pleasurable sensation when stimulated, intense sexual pleasure of course orgasm too from vaginal stimulation is occasional or otherwise absent because the vagina has significantly fewer nerve ending than the clitoris. The greatest  concentration of vaginal nerve ending are at the lower third of the vagina.   


Reasons of less or No Orgasm

There are many conditions where females do not orgasm. This may be due to a condition known as         orgasmic dysfunction or anorgasmia , or even due to stress and anxiety or other  chronic health issues.   Whatever may be the reason by which female not being able to reach an orgasm after attaining the       peak of excitement and ample stimulation can be quite a dampener.                                                                 

Orgasm related with mind --   Anyone who think that not being able to have an orgasm is a matter of being in a psychological space where it does not happen, could be mistaken. While stress could result in a few episodes where the female can not achieve an orgasm, there is an actual condition that encompasses the problem of not being able to orgasm. This is called anorexia  which could be universal ( never had an orgasm ), or situational ( can not achieve orgasms in certain situations ). This condition is tied to the mental and physical condition of the female in question .

Frigid or suffering from relationship problems – This is yet another condition which many female are facing . A female may be perfectly normal and happy in her relationship. There may be many other causes for not being able to achieve an orgasm including side effects of certain types of medication or due to the presence of other chronic ailments.

No orgasm is not  abnormal – There is nothing wrong with a female who can not reach an orgasm merely through intercourse. This is a major problem that medical science seeks to contradict .

To begin with , there are only about one third of female who can reach an orgasm with the help of intercourse. One third can reach orgasm during intercourse, but they do need extra stimulation. One third can reach an orgasm only with the help of manual or oral stimulation.

Nothing one can do about it – Well this one is indeed a problem . If the female is not being able to orgasm, then there is plenty that one do about it . She can try relaxation techniques. Also her partner can encourage her to try other means of stimulation like manual stimulation or oral stimulation.

                                                       Benefits of Female Orgasm 

Sex is a pleasurable thing for most people. In addition this bring health benefits. Actually for females, orgasm can have various positive impacts on the body and on the mind. Physical intimacy plays an important role in relationships. When sex is  ignored   or not properly handled , other issues start to take place. Couple feel less connected and  bonded , and as a result they feel less affectionate and loving. Healthy sex  help  to keep relationship strong and happy. Regular orgasm play an important role in emotional and physical health. In fact for females, orgasm can have a lot of positive impacts on the body and on mind.


Boosts Fertility

Regular orgasm do many thing to help boost a female’s fertility. Example include increasing the chance of pregnancy at any point during a female’s cycle, drawing in more sperm, and also boosting the immune system to help assist with fertilisation.


Help to reduce Cardiovascular problem

For both male and females who regularly participate in sexual activities and experience orgasm, they will experience a lower risk for hypertension, rapid heart rate and most cardiovascular diseases. Physical health and sexual health go hand to hand so it is no surprise that frequent sex has been shown to improve cardiovascular function. One study even found that females who enjoy regular orgasm have a decreased risk of heart disease and type 2 diabetes.  


Reduces  pain

Females who have regularly reported that if they were experiencing certain type of pain or discomfort, they find it subsides after having an orgasm. This can be attributed to the fact that during an orgasm.  Large amount of endorphin are released, which impact how your body is experiencing.  


Help out your immune system

After getting and experiencing proper orgasm the levels of white cells in your body increases. This means that your immune system has a boost for fighting off any illnesses.


Regular Menstrual cycle

Many research shows that regular sex might help to regulate females monthly  cycle , so many females grapple with irregular periods but few knows that regular sex might actually be beneficial . It has normally been observed that females who have sex at least once a week tend to have more regular cycle than those who rarely or never have sex.


Stronger Pelvic Floor

A strong pelvic floor is important for females as well as for males also. Females can enjoy longer and stronger orgasm by practicing your Kegel  exercises as well as by enjoying regular sex. A strong pelvic floor helps females to improve their bladder function and control ( which is important as females age, particularly if they have children )

Mental Health Benefits – Physical health is not the only area of health that is impacted by orgasm. It also provide many benefits to your mental health also.


Deeper Connection with partner

When females feel orgasm a large level of the hormone oxytocin is released into the system. This is a powerful tool to help foster stronger connection with your partner. That’s why after sex cuddles can be a fantastic thing to engage in. It builds a stronger connection with the partner that only increases the enjoyment of your relationship.


Increased Focus

While the hormones released after an orgasm has been shown to increase the amount of brain activity of your experiences. This means more focus , less stress , and a better ability to think through problems.


Better Night’s Sleep

If you regularly toss and turn at night, you definitely know the value of a deep sleep . However  having sex might help to improve your chance of restful sleep. The release of dopamine and oxytocin following orgasm can help to promote feelings of intimacy as well as rest and peacefulness.


Improvement in good mood


When someone reach orgasm, the brain is flooded with good endorphins that promote feeling of bliss and bonding. Regular sex can help to combat the blues and it can also keep you connected to your partner, and a strong relationship can do wonders for your mental well being, so once again healthy sex is a win win  policy for the couples.



Sexual response cycle is the pattern of physiologic event occurring during sexual arousal and  intercourse. In both men and women, these event  may be identified as occurring in a sequence of four stage---

Excitement – In the excitement stage the body prepares for sexual activity by tensing muscles and increasing heart rate and blood pressure. In the male , blood flows into the penis causing it to become erect , in the female, the vaginal walls become moist, the inner part of the vagina becomes wider, and the clitoris enlarges.  

Plateau stage – In this stage breathing becomes more rapid and the muscles continue to tense , the glans at the head of the penis swells and the testes enlarge in the male.Whereas in females the outer vagina  contracts and the clitoris retracts. 

Orgasm Stage – At this stage the neuromuscular tension built up in the preceding stages is released in a few seconds. In female, the vagina begins a series of regular contractions , while in male , the penis also contracts rhythmically to expel the sperm and semen ( ejaculation ).

Resolution Stage --  This stage brings a gradual return to the resting state that may take more time . In the female the vagina and other genital structures also return to their pre-excitement condition. In the male, the penis shrinks back to its normal size.

The resolution stage in male contains a refractory period of several minutes to a few hours, during which the male is incapable of further sexual arousal. Females have no such refractory period and can quickly become aroused again from any point in the resolution stage.




Orgasms are difficult to explain. Similar to explaining mood or pain, orgasms need to be interpreted through not just biological mechanisms but also psychological, sociological and historical trends. In conservative society the meaning of orgasm may be different from modern to ultra modern society. In some society it is widely accepted while in some it may be treated as taboo.

Many loving couple will say that they experience a variety of different types of orgasms, depending  on  which  parts  of their bodies are being stimulated. It also depends  on variety of different lengths, intensities, and overall quality.

Various types of orgasm are explained and defined by expert from time to time according to mood, situation, mind set , climate and social conditions. Few of them are as follows—

Erogenous Orgasm


Stimulating  lesser known erogenous parts of the body like ears,lips, nipples, neck, elbows, thighs , etc. can cause a pleasurable release when kissed and played with them gently and softly. Some couple describe the orgasm that follows as being more full-body, compared to other kinds of orgasms.

As nipples are also in erogenous zones,  nipples  have hundreds of nerve endings, making them super sensitive trusted source to touch, and playing with nipples can bring a lot of pleasure. When the nipples are stimulated , they shoot off sparks in the genital sensory cortex. This is the same area of the brain that’s aroused by vaginal or clitoral stimulation. 

Clitoral Orgasm

The clitoris is a nerve rich hot spot . The external portion of the clitoris peeks out from the tiptop of the vagina and is often covered by hood. One of the best ways to stimulate the external portion of the clitoris is by gently rubbing with the fingers, palm, or tongue in a back and forth or circular motion. The internal portion of the clitoris can’t be seen, but can be stimulated through internal vaginal pressure.    

Once the vagina begins to get wet or after any lube is added , because not all vaginas get wet on their own, apply faster and harder pressure in a repetitive motion. Top off this motion with heavy pressure as the orgasm begins to intensify the feeling, back down a little if the clit is too sensitive.

Have you heard about the G-Spot , this is the front wall of the vagina. Someone might have orgasm from stimulating the G-Spot, or have an orgasm from stimulating the external portion of their clitoris, but ultimately these orgasm all come from the same place.

Vaginal Orgasm

Vaginal orgasms are deeper in the body and usually accompanied by pulsations of the vaginal canal walls. When the G-Spot which is a specific spot about two inches inside the vaginal the front vaginal wall, is stimulated it can result in ejaculation.

Vaginal orgasm can be really pleasurable for those who can have them, but the cultural belief is that vaginal orgasms are better than any kind of orgasm.

When you are aroused and lubricated enough for penetration , try inserting a finger, penis into your vaginal canal.

Properly angle the object doing the penetrating toward the belly button, and make a come hither motion. This can stimulate the G-Spot and feels good for females.

Explore using different pressures along this hot spot until you find a pressure that feels good. Repeat motions that feel good so that the feelings will build up.

Anal Orgasm

Anal orgasm are something that any female  can have. Anal penetration can stimulate the clitoris legs as well as the A-spot or G-Spot.

Start by rubbing the outside of the anal opening with finger or with other object of your interest, while also stimulating the front genitals.

Get the anal canal accustomed to being penetrated with lube and a finger gently. Proper lube is essential because butts don’t naturally produce lubricant as vagina and the tissues in the  anal canal are very delicate, which means the area is very prone to micro tears when there is inadequate lubrication. Experiment this with tapping, circling, and pressing against the wall.

Combo or Blended orgasms

When the lips, bosom, vagina, clitoris and anal opening  are stimulated at the same time, it tends to result in a more explosive orgasm. Sometime these combo orgasm are accompanied by full body trembles and tremors.

To achieve a combo orgasm, try to combine clitoris and vaginal stimulation simultaneously, either in parallel or opposite rhythms whatever feels best for you. Combining clitoral stimulation with vaginal and anal opening stimulation is also the most common way to help squirt.

Well to Conclude – The orgasm may be great starting points, but sex does not have any prescribed manual. That’s why exploring in the moment and learning what your body loves and does not love is perfect and absolutely key.

Further to remember that all sex does not requires an orgasm, and orgasms do not mean the sex is great.

Choice of pleasure is different. Bodies are different. Orgasms are different. And the way it takes to get there is all about experimenting, communicating and trying again. You should allow yourself to soak in the sensations of pleasure process just as much, or even more than, the FEMALE.

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