SEXUAL FANTASIES

Fantasy is a pleasant situation that everybody enjoy thinking about,  but is unlikely to happen, or the activity of imagining things.

Something that is produced by imagination, an idea about doing something that is far away from normal reality.                                       

As someone fantasise about  career, good job, luxury living, beautiful partner, and so on.. It seems obvious to have fantasy about Sex also. Here it can be discussed, why fantasies about sex — is it necessary?  Might be yes, because  Sexuality  is a central part of human life. It is a normal and positive way to express yourself. Sexuality involves not only sex but other matters also, like sexual pleasure and intimacy, taboos and values on sexual orientation, anatomy and having extra fun.

Sex refers to all activities that can sexually arouse you. Sex is not only intercourse but also such as         kissing, caressing, touching each other’s genitals, fingering, and oral sex. You can also have sex             without any partner, with yourself only that is called self satisfaction. Sexual activities in imagination  also should be enjoyable for everyone involved and each person should provide consent  throughout     the time of sex.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        

A sexual fantasy is a deliberate though that enhances sexual feelings. It is mental imagery that turns you on. Sexual fantasies are generally things you would not normally engage in. Those might even include Taboos , but those are positive forms of erotic expressions, add excitement to sex, which could otherwise become very normal, mechanical, sterile and boring.

FORMATION OF FANTASY

Why and when someone  fantasies ?..when it becomes difficult, taboo, impractical, immoral, to find the things, partner, sexual atmosphere or unique activity during love making. Then  how to find it or fulfil that particular desire, it becomes easy to fantasies about that activity and fulfil whatever someone desires sexually.

So there is no definitive explanation for how and why certain sexual fantasies are formed, but it is known that two primary factors are childhood experiences and social norms relating to gender and sexuality.

You must have heard that in so many regions even a discussion by a person to talk about sex is prohibited, and subject to taboos and inhibitions, due to religious, cultural, social, moral constraints. Than what to do ?.. How to satisfy sexual desires ? It is Simple --fantasise.

Sexual fantasies are everywhere in universe, being reported in so many societies. However because of the nature of the some fantasies, the actual putting of such fantasies into realities is far less common, may be due to cultural, social, moral, and religious constraints. Any person might find validation of a sexual fantasy by reading or by viewing the depiction or discussion of the fantasy in Adult film and in Reading material.

BENEFITS OF SEXUAL FANTASIES

Fantasies gives empower – This is a fact that people fantasise about someone else not to make up for what they lack but to feel powerful and empowered. Most males think about porn star or celebrities – women they know, can never have sex with and the reason is purely to feel powerful. Females also fantasise about men they will never end up with but feel aroused by thinking about them which enhances the pleasure in bed.

Fantasy is free of cost decompress – There should not be any guilty feeling about sexual fantasy because you are not indulging in it to hurt your partner in any way or damage your relationship. Sexual fantasy enhances performance which is to satisfy your partner. Though no one likes their partner imaging someone else while in bed but sexual attraction in any relationship  starts fading after certain time period and it is obvious to fantasise in order to increase your performance and adventure in sexual relationship.

Brings adventure in bed – Sexual fantasy shows to your mind, in your world, you are the ruler, the king or queen and everything happens as per your desires. Imagining someone else gives you the power to be in bed with that person and feel powerful. Naturally you would then like to do things that you would be shy of doing otherwise. This inspire the experience, leading to better relationship with your spouse.

TYPES OF SEXUAL FANTASIES

Imagination has no boundaries. It is above the sky. Any person male or female can imagine and fantasise about favourite sexual partner, position, sexual activity, whatever they like or the maximum activities whether natural or unnatural, possible or impossible, permitted or prohibited, socially accepted or taboo.

Sexual fantasies are endless, perhaps it’s not possible to include each and every sexual fantasies,  but still few of those are like—

Incest sex fantasy

Any male or female think about sexual relation within family, blood relation or with very close relatives is called incest sexual fantasy.  Everybody knows and understand that incest sex fantasy in restricted, but it Exist . What happens parents or elders always think that their child or sibling is innocent,  immature and doesn’t understand anything about sex and they do something willingly or unwillingly those act which should not have done openly, like elder ladies take shower, change clothes, mature couples kisses each other or makes love.  These kind of acts attract opposite gender to think sexual activities with them as they see them doing. Incest sexual relationships between biological closes family members is an idea that may make sexual organs crawl.

Incest sex feeling is very thrilling, one may find something arousing, however doesn’t mean anyone actually want to do it. That is the curious thing about incest fantasies, for some people, those are the dreams but no one really don’t want to come true.   

This type of sexual fantasy is strictly forbidden and considered immoral in most of the societies and can lead to an increased risk of genetic disorders in children.

Orgy fantasy 

In modern time and culture orgy is a sex party consisting of more than five consenting members, where guests freely engage in open and unrestrained sexual activities in the same place over the same period of time. This kind of sexual fantasy has more to do with experience than anything else. Sometimes in this fantasy there is only one woman and many men. This is the intoxicating idea, one woman who is the main object of desire. The men used to love her in their own way like- kissing, caressing, fingering, nailing, gentle biting, and wait their turn for real intercourse with the woman.

Threesome fantasy 

This is the most popular fantasy in which a woman loves to satisfy her two male sex partner simultaneously. When  engaging  in a threesome, the general rule states any one of two men should not be gay and woman should be anal sex loving.

The fantasy of being simultaneously loved and adored by two males, grouping may be exciting for some female. Threesome  present a way for woman to be wanted by more than one person, and be centre stage.

Taboos fantasy 

All forbidden, restricted fantasies fall under this category, but forbidden pleasure excite a lot. Some people have all sorts of kinky fetishes and fantasies surrounding different relationship within family such as mother-son, father –daughter, brother-sister. In extended families such as uncle or aunt, cousin sister and brother  may also be a figure of stirring up sexual tension. Needless to describe, nobody actually desires this and will never act on such an impulse but the mere dirty and raw nature of the fantasy gets them going. However, the idea is such an erotic one for many due to the hyper-sexualized relationship especially among family members in the erotica world.

Hardcore BDSM 

Many couple enjoy this taboo fantasy of BDSM. Originated  with the amalgamation of  Bondage,         Dominance, Sadism, and Masochism. BDSM has become a top rated fantasy in erotica category.            The dominance and submissive roles that sex partner assume during the sexual play gets most of the       people crazy. The fantasy that your partner is man-handling you and choking you can truly get a             woman wet and horny but most of them would not even think about going through with it.                                                                                                                                                                                                         

Woman loves to imagine scenarios where there is some rough penetration going on involving all different types of gadgets and abuse. It is all a rough and raw imagination that feels liberating as someone think about the partner gagging you or tying you up during intercourse.

Sex  in public 

The fantasy of having sex in public can feel raunchy and out of the way for most of the women. Whether you are in bed or just alone by yourself, you can imagine being at a public place and get the thrill out of it.

You can imagine being in a metro, public bus, or plane or may be just some public library or park. The fantasy of sex in public is so hot because you pass those places every day, and the idea of associating them with sex with your partner will have you anticipating the night that follows. The sexual build up through-out the day will definitely be worth it.

Submissive 

Submissive sex fantasy is an element of the dominance and submissive loving couples, this fantasy is a sub category under BDSM fantasy, a collection of erotic practices, fetishes and kinks built upon power dynamics between consenting sexual partners.

In this particular fantasy between two adult and consenting couple  in which one plays the role of a submissive partner while the other plays the role of dominant partner. Both partners receive sexual pleasure and satisfaction from performing the role whether dominant or submissive during sexual encounter.

Exhibitionism

In this thrilling fantasy a person becomes sexually aroused by being observed nude or engaging in sexual activities. A woman feels crazy to perform sexual acts in front of people or in public space like sex in communal space, workplace, bathrooms, restaurants, airport and more.

The exhibitionist is the person who puts herself on display and loves to feel that people seeing or hearing her body or sexual activities, and feel aroused to expose her genitals to strangers or non consenting people.

Engaging in or fantasising about being an exhibitionist is a very common fantasy. In this fantasy a         person never has to leave her home or workplace, she can wear sexually appealing outfits and careless   about outfits and lingerie, ignoring that other people are seeing her, or having sex with the lights on, or   participate in mutual masturbation with the partner. The end goal is to be seen or heard.                                  

Voyeurism

Voyeurism fantasy is a sexual preference for observing others, typically adult females, engaged in intimate activities e.g. bathing, undressing, changing clothes, masturbating or engaging in sexual behaviour.

It is an interest in observing unsuspecting people while they are engage in their private or very personal activities. The interest is usually more in the act of watching, rather than in the person being watched.

The key element of voyeurism is that the person being watched doesn’t know they are being observed. The person is typically in a place where they have a reasonable expectation of privacy, like as their home or other private area.

Role play

Role play fantasy is the act of imitating the character and behaviour of someone who is different from yourself. This fantasy gives you the opportunity to engage in the game of seduction, starring you and your partner enacting different characters.

You can chose any role of master and maid, doctor and patient, teacher and student, and many more .. as you wish. Role playing fantasy in sex can be a break from the boring sex life that both of you have. Turing up to your partner as a stranger waiting to get steamy in the bedroom or playing the role of the dominant one for once can stir things up.

Forced Sex fantasy

A forced sex fantasy is very erotic, may be called ravishment fantasy. It involves a woman imagining a scenario in which a stranger physically forces or coerces her into sex.

Frequently, women use forced sex fantasy to experience the edge of imaginative limits, to get a thrill and experience forced submission in a controlled, safe atmosphere. Normally women hide their forced sex fantasy because they feel conflicted in fantasising about something that would cause debilitating trauma in real life.

Caught on tape fantasy

Watching your own adult video may be really very thrilling for. Caught on tape fantasy work on this imagination. In your own sex tape where you are in  the main corrector with your sex partner. It’s basically taking your sexual awesomeness to the next level kinkiness because you know you want to be able to record one of your great sexual encounters for the days when your arousal is at high.

Change gender fantasy

To experience something new and erotic, women try this fantasy. In this category, female act like male and ask her partner to feel and respond like woman. She takes the command and perform as male. Her partner has already been told and convinced to stay in female corrector and behave like female. Normally it is  done in change position or sometimes to get more kinky pleasure woman may use  other objects of her choice also.   

Sex with same gender

Very common female sexual fantasy to have sex with same gender. This fantasy do not have limits. The tendency of a female to be emotionally and usually sexually attracted to other females, or the state of being so attracted. Normally it begins from early days when a teacher or colleagues  attracts for love, no real sex possible so it happens in imagination, It goes on later stage  also. Now it gives erotic feelings with office friends, neighbour  mature aunt, sometimes anyone in home.

Spanking

To fantasise about spanking, it can make the sex passionate and painful at the same time. Females imagine giving or receiving spanking and it gives them pleasure. The desire of spanking arises to taste the raw passion and it can be really hot. 

Sex with stranger

Many females imagine about sex with stranger they saw somewhere and found to be sexually attractive. It is popular fantasy because of the anonymity. It is the attraction of physical sex only which makes it hot. Also, when the sex is over, female is out and free to take her own path.

 

Well to Conclude—Fantasies are never exactly coherent with Real – Life desires and it is important to understand when they are. Be vocal about real desires and all your kinky ideas of taboo fantasies. Be truthful about your comfort zone and enjoy your sex much more with the occasional discussion of dirty and kinky play. Fantasies are normal and harmless, but never try to implement in real life.  After all, don’t all think about the sexy taboo stuff once in a while ? Share with your lover and have the best sex of your life!!

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